How to Talk to Girls if You're Shy - 8 Helpful Tips

Are you a shy guy who wants to feel more confident talking to girls? Don’t worry, I’ve got you covered. As a guy who is confident around girls, I’ll be the first one to admit that I was not always comfortable when talking to women.

Getting comfortable and confident around women may seem like an impossible task, however it’s a lot easier than it may seem. With a bit of time and practice you will have no trouble talking to girls comfortably.

With that being said, here are 10 helpful tips for talking to girls if you’re shy.

8 Ways to Talk to Girls if You’re Shy

1. Use Your Phone

If talking to girls is something you’re not comfortable with, start with small steps. As a shy guy, the best way to talk to girls is by using your phone.

Nowadays, a lot of flirting is done over social media. Knowing how to talk to a girl online and set up a date is just as important as talking to a girl in person.

The good thing about texting a girl, is that you’ll have time to think about your messages. When texting, never rush into sending messages. It’s better to think about what you’re going to say before you send the message.

If you don’t have girls to talk to, use dating apps like Tinder and Bumble. Dating apps are a great way to practice talking to girls and to see what works and doesn’t work when talking to a women.

Another great way to talk to girls online is by connecting with mutual friends on Instagram.

Tip: If you’re messaging a girl on Instagram, reply to her story so you have something to talk about.

2. Control the Setting

If you have a hard time talking to girls in person, try controlling the setting you are in. The last thing you want to do when you’re meeting a new girl, is to be surrounded by a bunch of new people and totally out of your comfort zone.

Generally, shy people have a hard time when they’re in a situation that is unfamiliar. Instead, put yourself in a situation where you feel comfortable and confident.

Going on a date at your favorite coffee shop, going to a restaurant or hanging out with your group of friends is the best way you can control the setting.

Tip: If it’s the first time you’re meeting a girl, never hang out with her group of friends.

3. Increase Interactions

The only way that you will get over your social anxiety is by getting increasing your interactions with women. The more social situations you put yourself in, the more comfortable and confident you will become around girls.

Whether it’s over the phone or in person, it’s important to get more and more experience talking to women.

If you think an interaction went well, consider what you did right. If an interaction was awkward and there was no chemistry, think about what you could’ve done differently.

Like most things in life, you probably won’t be great right away. With a bit patience, you will become way better at talking to girls and you will no longer by shy around them.

4. Don’t Come Off too Strong

When it comes to talking to new girls, you’re going to want to avoid coming off too strong. The worst thing you can do as a guy, is start talking about politics, world issues and be overbearing with a new girl.

Instead, ask the girl open-ended questions and make small talk. This is a much better way to come off more casual and actually get to know the girl.

Once you get better at small talk, women will be more interested in you and they will enjoy talking to you. Keep the conversation very casual and play it safe.

Talk about music, tv shows, work or school because those are good conversation starters that girls tend to enjoy talking about.

5. Treat the Girl Like a Friend

A reason that many guys tend to get nervous or shy around girls, is because they’re scared of talking to a girl. In reality, a girl is a person just like anyone else and once you see them as just another person it becomes easy to talk to them.

Just like there are shy guys, there are also shy girls so don’t be afraid to approach a girl and talk to her. If you see an attractive girl, just treat her normally. Many times, guys will try too hard for a girl they find hot and they come off as weird.

A good way to become more comfortable around women is to have some female friends. If you have some friends that are girls that you can hang out with, it’s a great opportunity to find out what girls are interested in.

6. Don’t Overthink

When it comes to talking to girls, don’t overthink the process. As a mentioned above, a girl is a person just like anyone else so there is no reason not to talk to them like you would talk to a normal person.

Many guys fear rejection when they talk to girls. No matter what you look like, the only way to talk to girls is to actually talk to girls.

If you’re not going to talk to a girl because you’re scared she’s not going to want to talk to you, then you are only playing yourself. It’s better to talk to a girl and get rejected than to not talk to a girl at all.

Remember, the more girls you talk to, the more you increase your chances of meeting a girl who is into you.

7. Work on Yourself

Working on yourself is a great way to become more comfortable and confident around girls. Everything from the way you dress to improving on your social skills will help you become a natural around women.

If you’re constantly finding ways to become less shy with girls, then it won’t be long before talking to a girl is easy for you.

Here are some ways you can work on yourself:

Workout
Improve your wardrobe
Practice good hygiene
Talk to your girl friends
Find some interesting hobbies and interests

8. Confidence

Working on your confidence is the best way to become less shy around women. Generally, girls tend to like a confident man who seems natural when they’re hanging out in social situations.

If you look look comfortable and like you’re having a good time, girls will gravitate towards you. Typically, people who tend to be introverts will be quiet and awkward in social situations. Unfortunately, this won’t attract women.

Confident people have a vibe about them where they are easily approachable. If a girl happens to approach you act confident, make eye contact and just live in the moment. The more natural you are the better.

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Final Thoughts on How to Talk to Girls if You’re Shy

If you’re shy when it comes to talking to girls, don’t worry it is completely normal. I know first hand that no matter how confident someone may seem, there was a point in their life where they we’re shy around girls as well.

By increasing interactions, focusing on improving and trying to understand women better you will be comfortable around girls in no time!

What’s the main reason you’re shy around girls? Please let me know in the comments below.

How to Talk to Girls if You’re Shy – 8 Helpful Tips