How to Talk to Girls in College – 10 Ways that Actually Work

How to Talk to Girls in College

As a recent college graduate, I’ve talked to many girls. I’ve always been pretty comfortable around girls but I know that’s not always the case for everyone. 

Are you wondering how you can talk to more girls in college? Don’t worry, I’ve got you covered. 

How to Talk to Girls in College

The best way to talk to girls in college, is to be friendly and talk to her like you would any friend. Remember, in college everyone is there to learn and also have fun so don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and engage on conversation.

In this post, I share 10 ways to talk to girls in college that actually work!

College guy with two girls

10 Ways to Talk to Girls in College

Talk to Girls While in Class

The best way to talk to girls in college, is to talk to them while in class. You can a question about the class, make conversation before a lecture or ask to study together after class.

Being in class is a great time to talk to girls. The fact that you are in the same class gives you something to talk about and you will see them regularly throughout the semester.

Many guys will be shy and scared to talk to a girl in class. Remember, they’re a student just like you. If you start talking to a girl and she seems uninterested in the conversation, try talking to somebody else in the next class.

Naturally, some girls won’t be interested in engaging in further conversation. Eventually, you will find a girl who’s genuinely interested in talking to you and you guys can become friends.

Participate in Clubs

Participating in clubs is a great way to meet girls with the same interests as you. If a girl is in a club, it’s because she wants a place where she can feel comfortable doing something she is interested in.

Clubs are a great way to meet girls and make new friends. If you participate in clubs, it will become a place where you will meet a lot of people.

Once you become comfortable in the club and have begun to make friends, feel free to ask them to hang out outside of the club.

Be Yourself

Be yourself around girls. Something many guys do, is try to pretend to be somebody they are not and girls can see right through it. The last thing you want, is for a girl to want you for the wrong reasons.

Remember, you can only pretend to be somebody you’re not for so long. Eventually, they will realize that you’re putting on an act.

If you be yourself, act kind and are fun to be around, there’s no reason a girl would not want to hang out with you.

Be Friendly

A mistake many guys do is see girls as girls, instead of as regular people. Girls are just like us guys, they have interests, hobbies and goals.

Instead of trying to get with them, first try to be their friend. It’s a lot easier to meet new girls when you are already friends with girls.

If you’re just friendly, fun and cool to hang out with, girls who see you as a friend will want to hang out with you. From there, you will meet their girl friends and even girls in their sorority.

If you come off as a guy who is just trying to get laid in college, trust me, you will not be getting girls. Just be yourself, be friendly and have fun.

Hang Out with Them on Break

Students Talking

If you find yourself talking to a girl in class, ask them what they’re doing after class. If they’re not busy, there’s a good chance that they will want to hang out.

This is a great way to hang out and get to know them better outside of class. If you take the friendly approach, there’s no reason that they will say no unless they’re busy or have a boyfriend.

When you hang out with them feel free to ask for their number, Snapchat or Instagram. This way you can hang out more throughout the semester.

Take Care of Your Appearance

Man doing hair

Looking good will naturally impact the way girls respond to you. If you dress nicely, do your hair and have good hygiene, you will be more approachable and will look better.

If you put in a bit of effort into getting some nice clothes for class it will make a huge difference. Make sure that you always take care of your hygiene, because bad hygiene is a huge turn off for girls.

Quick Hygiene Tips:

  • Brush your teeth
  • Shower regularly
  • Wear deodorant
  • Trim your nails
  • Get a haircut every 3 weeks
  • Wear cologne

Following these hygiene tips and getting some stylish clothes will greatly improve your appearance.

Wondering how to dress for college? Check out this article: How to Dress in College

Become More Confident

When it comes to getting girls, confidence is key. If you’re being yourself, there is no reason that you shouldn’t be confident.

If you’re looking for ways to become more confident in yourself, try working out. Working out is a great way to feel good about yourself and to look better.

If you’re looking for a way to be more confident around girls, just try talking to them. At first, you may be awkward, but over time you will become more comfortable and talking to girls will be easy for you.

Have Fun

One of the best ways to get girls is to have fun. If you’re having fun doing an activity, participating in an event for school or in class naturally people will gravitate towards you.

When you’re at a party, don’t be the guy on his phone sitting on the couch or the guy leaning against the wall people watching. Participate in the drinking games, challenge people to have fun with you and even dance.

In college, the majority of students are there to have fun. If you can find a way to have fun too you will fit right in and meet plenty of girls.

Looking for ways to have fun in college? Check out this article: 8 Ways to Have Fun in College

Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

If you’re an introverted guy, you have to find a way of stepping out of your comfort zone. It can be hard, but on the most part as a guy, you will have to initiate the conversation with girls.

College is a great place to step out of your comfort zone. With so many different students, you can do what you want and be who you want.

You can choose to be the guy who stays in his dorm room or you can be the guy who goes out, has fun and makes new friends.

In college, everyone is in the same position as you. It doesn’t matter who you were in high school. Just be yourself and make the best of a really fun situation.

The years you spend in college, are going to be like nothing you will ever experience again. You might as well make the most of it!

Shoot Your Shot

College guy on phone

The last way to talk to girls in college, is to DM them. When it comes to dm’ing girls, don’t get discouraged if you get left on read or you don’t get an answer back.

In college, girls get plenty of dm’s from guys. The other ways listed above are better for talking to girls, but if you can’t build up the courage to talk to a girl, send them a DM.

The worst thing that can happen, is they don’t answer, which really isn’t a big deal.

When you are sending a DM, the best way to get their attention is to be subtle. Many guys will try pickup lines and that just comes off as really cringey.

It’s better to play it safe and to just start a conversation with them. Sending a DM on it’s own can look desperate so it’s always better to talk to the girl in person first.

Final Thoughts on How to Talk in College

If you’re having trouble talking to girls in college, consider taking a different approach. In this post, we go over 10 helpful ways to talk to girls in college that really work!

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