As a guy, you might be wondering how to talk to girls in high school. It’s normal to be intimated and feel shy when approaching girls at school. At times, you may feel insecure and be unsure how to even start a conversation.
A few years ago when I was in high school, I was in the same boat. I was shy, didn’t have confidence and I never knew how to start a conversation. Overtime, I became much more confident and comfortable around girls and it became much easier to talk to them.
In this post, I’ll help you find ways to break the ice and feel more confident when talking to girls. I also share what not to do when talking to girls.
10 Ways to Talk to Girls in High School
These tips for talking with high school girls will be useful whether you lack confidence or you just want to be more comfortable. At one point in time, even the most confident guys have been awkward and have had difficulties talking to girls too.
Here are 10 ways to talk to girls in high school if you lack confidence, you’re shy and if you have trouble starting conversations:
1. Work on Your Confidence
Working on your confidence is a crucial part of talking to girls. You have to feel comfortable in your own skin when approaching girls in high school.
There are many ways that you can work on your confidence easily from your own home. Here are some recommendations:
Workout
Working out is a great way to become the best version of yourself. Whether it’s getting a gym membership or working out at your home, there are great ways to improve the look of your body.
If you want to workout at home, do push-ups, sit-ups and plank. These three basic exercises are very easy to do at home and will give your arms, abs, shoulders and back more definition.
Dress Nicely
In high school, many guys will wear the same pair of sweatpants all week. If you want to improve your confidence, try to dress better.
When you go shopping, choose some nice jeans, sweatpants or sweaters that fit your body well. If you dress well, you will have more confidence knowing that you are looking good.
If you’re at home, just plan your outfit a day in advance so you can show up to school looking stylish.
If you’re wondering how to dress in high school, check out this article: What to Wear in High School for Guys – Style Guide
Good Hygiene
Having good hygiene will improve your confidence. In high school, girls don’t want to talk to a guy who smells and has bad breath.
Be sure to shower daily, brush your teeth, put on deodorant and if you want spray a bit of cologne.
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2. Be Yourself
Oftentimes, teenage guys will try to be someone they’re not in high school. However it’s important to be yourself. There’s nothing wrong with being being interested in things that are different from the norm.
If you’re trying to talk to more girls in high school, let your personality show. If you’re a nice person, there is no reason for girls not to want to talk to you.
3. Be Friendly
If you’re a friendly person it will be much easier to talk to girls. Be kind to everyone and your classmates will treat you the same way.
If you see someone struggling in class, offer to help them. Whether it’s a guy or a girl, being a friendly person will go a long way.
In high school, if you have the reputation of being a nice and friendly person, other people will want to be friends with you, including girls.
4. Act Mature
In high school, there will be guys that are immature and will laugh at you for talking to girls. It’s important to be mature – there’s nothing wrong with talking to girls in high school.
As a guy, I know first hand how guys can be in high school. If you act mature and respectful, it will separate you from the other guys.
5. Increase Interactions
Increasing your interactions with girls is super important. Overtime, the more you talk with girls the easier it becomes.
If you’re trying to talk to your crush and you feel super nervous, try talking to other girls first. It’s important to feel confident and comfortable talking to girls before you approach your crush.
There’s nothing wrong with having some friends that are girls.
6. Talk to Girls the Same Way You Would Talk to a Stranger
A mistake many high school guys make is talk to girls differently just because they are a girl. Just like us guys, girls are people too.
You don’t have to talk to them differently or be weird around them. Just be yourself and treat them as if they are a stranger regardless of their gender.
7. Sit Next to Girls in Class
If you want to talk to more girls, try sitting next to them in class. Oftentimes, in high school guys will sit in a group. If you have the chance, sit with girls as well.
This is a great way to do group work with girls, talk to them about class and even become friendly with them. Once you develop some confidence and you feel comfortable around girls, it becomes easy to talk to girls.
8. Eat Lunch With Girls
Once you become friends with girls in your class, sit with them at lunch. This is a great way to meet other girls and to make new friends.
Eating lunch together is a great way to get to know your classmates outside of class in high school. This can lead to hanging out with girls outside of school.
9. Get Their Number
Nowadays, your phone is a very important part of talking to girls. When you feel comfortable, ask a girl for her number. Unless she is dating someone she will most likely give you her number.
Having a girls number is a great way to get to know someone better. You can text or call each other outside of school.
10. Use Social Media
In today’s day and age the easiest way to talk to girls is on social media. If you’re shy or nervous around girls, start by talking to them on Snapchat or Instagram.
If you’re unsure on how to begin a conversation on social media, either send them a message like”hey” or reply to one of their stories.
Social media is a great tool for increasing interactions with girls in high school and meeting more girls in high school. Post a few pictures on Instagram and be active on your social media accounts and you will talk to more girls.
Talking to Girls in High School – What Not to Do
So you like a girl and you want to talk to her in high school, it’s equally as important to not do things that will make her feel uncomfortable or turn her off.
Avoid Corny Pickup Lines
Using corny pickup lines to talk to girls in high school will not work. It’s better just to be yourself and ask a girl about school work, her day or talk about something that happened in class.
Pickup lines are viewed as cringy and you will be embarrassing yourself by approaching girls that way.
Don’t Over Text
If you have a girl’s number and you’ve been texting and she stops answering, don’t over text her. If you’ve sent more than one text two texts to her, wait for her to respond.
It’s possible that she’s busy doing homework, eating or hanging out with friends. If you start blowing up her phone, there’s a good chance that you’re going to seem crazy.
Don’t Stalk Her
If there’s a girl you like, give her space. It’s important to not follow her around school or making her feel uncomfortable.
Make sure that the girl is also engaging in conversation and it’s not you every time. If you feel like she’s not interested in talking, let her be.
Don’t Cat Call
In high school, some guys think a good way to get a girls attention is by cat calling. Now, this may get a girls attention but for all the wrong reasons.
Women do not like to be cat called and it is seen as disrespectful. It’s better to approach a girl respectfully and be kind towards her.
Don’t Flirt With Her Friends
If you want a girl, do not flirt with her friends. If you talk to her friends it is fine but flirting with her friends has the potential of becoming a problem.
It’s better to be friendly with her friends and be flirtatious with the girl that you are interested in.
Don’t Be Touchy
When you’re in high school, don’t be touchy with girls. It’s important that you keep your hands to yourself as you don’t want to make a girl feel uncomfortable.
Girls do not like to be touched without giving consent.
Don’t Be Disrespectful
When talking to a girl do not be disrespectful. Even if the girl ignores you or doesn’t answer your text, it’s not an excuse to treat her poorly.
If you’re seen as a respectful and kind guy, girls will want to talk to you.
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Final Thoughts on How to Talk to Girls in High School
If you’re in high school, it can be hard to talk to girls. However there are some ways to make it easier and become more comfortable. If you’re having a tough time talking to girls in high school, just know that it does get better with time and practice.
Why is talking to girls hard for you & do you have any tips? Please let me know in the comments