Are you wondering how to meet guys in college if you’re shy? As a guy who recently graduated college, I have a unique perspective as well as some “insider tips” to share with you.
If you’re an introvert, there’s no denying that it can be a real challenge to make friends in college. Luckily, there are many ways where you can meet guys in college, even if you’re introverted.
In this post, I share 6 helpful ways that you can meet guys in college as a shy person.
6 Ways to Meet Guys in College if You’re Shy
It can be difficult to meet guys in college, especially if you’re shy, but it doesn’t have to be. After all, everyone is there to learn, but also wants to have a good time with people they like.
Many college students come to college knowing very few people. This means that there are plenty of students looking to make new friends.
Before making guy friends, it’s important to have girl friends. Whether it’s a roommate, sorority sister or a friend from class it’s a lot easier to meet new people with a friend than all alone.
With that being said, here are 6 ways to meet guys if you’re shy:
Joining Clubs
A great way to meet guys with similar interests to you is to join clubs in college. Clubs are a great way to get out a little bit of your comfort zone and meet some new people.
In college, clubs are always very welcoming and love to have new members. If you feel nervous to go, ask one of your friends to come with you.
Once you are a member of a club you will always have people to hang out with and a place to regularly meet. Whether it’s to meet guys or just to make friends going to clubs is a great place to start.
Now don’t think that clubs are only for extroverted people. There are clubs in college for people with a lot of different interests. You’ll find gaming clubs, academic clubs, book clubs, religious clubs and more.
Working a Job on Campus
A good way to meet guys in college is through a part time job on the college campus. There are plenty of jobs in and around campus where you will be able to meet other students.
This is a great way to increase your interactions with different guys. Overtime, you’ll feel less shy around certain guys that you regularly work with. You may even meet new guys friends who are regular customers.
If you feel a connection with a guy that you work with, don’t be afraid to ask him to hang out. Unless he’s in a relationship, most guys will want to hang out.
Socializing Outside of Class
If you’re shy, putting yourself out there will be hard at first. However when you’re going to college, this is a good time to try some new things. Overtime, it becomes easier and easier. Socialize with people in class, around school and participate in activities.
In class is a great time to make friends and meet guys. Whether it’s asking a question about school work or just starting a conversation it’s a good way to build relationships.
When a guy talks to you, it’s important to be friendly. If you seem interested and engaged in the conversation, you’re more likely to talk to them again.
If you have roommates or friends that invite you out, go out! I get it, it’s a lot easier to just stay in but going out is a great way to meet guys.
Going to a bar, parties or other people dorms is a great way to meet guys. If you go to a bar or party, guys will come up to you and engage in conversation.
If you’re looking to talk and meet more guys, this is the easiest way to do it.
Remember, if you stay home, it’s going to be very hard to meet new guys. It’s important to have an open mind and not to limit the amount of people you are interacting with.
Dating Apps
Since the pandemic, it seems like everyone has gotten on dating apps. Years ago, there was a stigma around apps like Tinder, Bumble and Hinge. However these days college students are using them than ever.
If you’re shy, this is probably the easiest way to meet some new guys. You can talk to boys, arrange dates and meet some college guys.
If you’re embarrassed to be on a dating app, don’t be!
Dating apps are great because:
- You can choose who you want to talk to
- Answer when you want
- Easy to talk over text
- You can go on dates
- Meet new people in your area
If you’re shy, try out dating apps. You may meet somebody that you wouldn’t have in school. Generally, guys will initiate conversations on dating apps, which is a sign that they’re interested in you.
If you do meet with somebody from a dating app, make sure they are who they say they are. You can do this by Face-timing them before hand, following them on social media or adding them on Snapchat.
If it’s your first time meeting them, meet somewhere public and do your best to stay on campus just to be safe.
Attend School Events
Attending school events will put you in a position to meet guys. There are school events happening on a weekly basis and everyone is there to meet new people and have fun.
School events like cultural days, art shows, guest speakers and networking events are places to be.
Going with a friend is a good idea, as you will probably be more comfortable. The more you go out, the more people you will meet. On the most part, guys will come up to you.
Study Groups
In college, it’s very common to have study groups. If you’re in class, don’t be afraid to create a study group with some classmates.
This is a great way to meet and hang out with guys while getting your schoolwork done. It may be hard to initiate the study group, but if you feel more comfortable ask a girl first.
There are many benefits to having a study group as everyone can succeed together while building friendships.
If you like a guy, consider asking him to join your study group. This is really no risk as you can get to know him, although you’re not coming out and directly letting him know you’re interested. You never know – this can always lead to more.
Final Thoughts on How to Meet Guys in College if You’re Shy
Meeting guys in college when you’re shy can be intimidating at first, but I promise you it does get easier. Overtime, you will become more comfortable around guys and it will become effortless for you to meet new guys.
The more practice you get talking with college guys and hanging with them, the more comfortable you will become. I hope that my tips and insight help, good luck!
Are you a guy or girl that has tips to share? Please let me know in the comments below.